We need to dissect this insanity a bit cz why would someone say this unless they think women should just deal with men crossing their boundaries and lesbians not be uncomfortable with straight men pursuing them... Shouldn't even unpack this tbh just throw the whole baggage away
I think when youโre transitioning from being a people pleaser to someone with more boundaries itโs so weird, because itโs hard to tell if youโre being mean or if youโre just listening to your own feelings because youโre so used to this & only thinking about others
Those healing trauma need to practice autonomy. They need to know they can set boundaries, they can control who they allow into their lives, and they are no longer that frozen helpless child. Even when it feels like it.
Crazy how peaceful life becomes when you stop reaching out to fix things you didn't break to maintain one-sided relationships because you realize you deserve long-term mutually beneficial healthy relationships based on open communication, clear boundaries, and reciprocity.
When someone shows you their true colors, believe them the first time. See the good in them without ignoring the red flags. Let them be themselves without trying to change or 'fix' them. Let your boundaries, their vibe, and their reciprocity tell you how much access to give them.
When you set a new standard on how you expect to be treated, you'll be surprised at those who disappear from your life. It's a hard pill to swallow, when you realise how many people benefited from your lack of self-love and boundaries. It's also a great way to filter your circle.
