Insecure people always need to be heard. They aim to prove their knowledge and feel important. They seek status by getting attention.

Secure people are happy to listen. They want to improve their knowledge and make others feel important. They earn respect by giving attention.

Emotion regulation is not about controlling what you feel. It's about choosing how you respond.

Wise people don't suppress emotion. They find constructive ways to express it.

Intense feelings don't always demand immediate reactions. They often benefit from deep reflection.

Being shy is not the same as being introverted.

Shyness stems from social anxiety. The goal is to avoid being evaluated negatively.

Introversion is rooted in neurological sensitivity. The goal is to avoid being overstimulated.

In cultures of politeness, dissent is a threat to social harmony. People nod and smile even if they disagree, and silence fuels groupthink.

In cultures of integrity, dissent is a sign of commitment to quality. People voice their views, and respectful debate improves decisions.

The best antidote to burnout is not teaching people coping skills to handle stress. It's redesigning work to reduce stress.

The cure for exhaustion is removing overwhelming demands and the norm of self-sacrifice.

Healthy workplaces value well-being as much as performance.

To remember what you learn, don't just review it. Read it out loud.

You're more likely to retain what you say than what you hear or read silently. Actively producing words in your own voice makes them stick.

Our best recall is for the information we reconstruct ourselves.

Sticking with a bad decision is not a triumph of commitment. It's a failure of courage.

The quicker you are to admit you were wrong, the sooner you can start making it right.

Persistence is not about staying on a path. It's about finding a better path to your goal.

Cliques divide people into insiders and outsiders. Healthy groups offer everyone a sense of belonging.

It's not enough to be polite. It's critical to convey that we value each member's contribution.

The foundation of respect is making sure others feel seen and heard.

Banning smartphones in schools is good for learning and well-being.

New study of 400+ middle schools in Norway: after smartphone bans, girls had fewer mental health issues & better grades. Boys and girls were less likely to be bullied.

Smartphones belong at home or in lockers.

The most valuable indicator of future potential is not past performance. It's recent progress.

The people who exceed expectations tomorrow are the ones who improved the most yesterday. Getting better shows the drive and dexterity to learn.

Growth is an accomplishment in itself.

The best way to regulate anger is not to vent right away. It’s to calm down first.

154 studies: Deep breathing, meditation & yoga are better antidotes to aggression than yelling, punching & running.

Anger management is about lowering your heart rate, not raising it. Relaxing…

There's no such thing as a self-made man or woman. No one succeeds without support.

'I did it on my own' is a sign of insecurity and entitlement. Acknowledging help is a mark of confidence and humility.

Giving credit to others doesn't undermine you. It elevates them.

In transactional relationships, people only reach out when they want something from you. They use your connection to achieve their goals.

In meaningful relationships, people get in touch when they think of you. Staying connected and being helpful are their goals.

Reading fiction has small but meaningful benefits for empathy.

70 experiments: concern for and understanding of others grow more through reading novels than watching shows and movies.

Immersion in words about imaginary worlds can help us see realities beyond our own.

When people bring you a problem, it's not always a sign that they blame you. It’s often a signal that they trust you.

Seeking support is an expression of vulnerability. It shows that they count on you to care and value your help.

It's a compliment to be chosen as a confidant.

Knowing you were a victim is liberating. No longer blaming yourself for a bad circumstance empowers you to move forward.

Victimhood is limiting. Blaming others for all your suffering leaves you powerless to change your circumstances.

Pain is inevitable. Victimhood is a choice.

A mark of emotional maturity is hearing disagreement without taking offense.

Thoughtful dissent doesn't always mean you're wrong. It often means the issue is complex and your knowledge is incomplete.

Good-faith debate isn't an attack. It's an opportunity to sharpen your ideas.

Self-doubt stops too many women from applying for jobs.

After clearing the bar for expert-level work, 92% of men applied—but only 50% of women did.

It shouldn't matter whether you feel qualified. That's for the employer to judge. If you're interested, put your hat in the ring.

Confidence doesn't always come from believing in yourself today. It often stems from recalling the obstacles you overcame yesterday.

A history of resilience can silence self-doubt. Challenges conquered are clues to hidden strengths.

Past progress is proof of future potential.